Thursday, 8 July 2010

Girls that shine and bitter old men

“I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination.”

-Jimmy Dean-

I refuse to believe that life is as complicated as we sometimes think it is, but how do you convince others about it?
Scenario 1: very pretty girl with a messed up mind. She’s also clever, intelligent and compassionate. And she adores children. But she hates herself. Somewhere in her mind she has decided that she is not worthy of being loved. She loves others but not herself, but precisely for this reason, others cannot love her. She doesn’t give anything of herself because she has decided beforehand that the other person will not love her and that she will be betrayed. She blames her looks so you can say hello to eating disorders. She thinks that when she reaches physical perfection, she can be loved. But she will never achieve what she considers perfection because she keeps pushing the limits, something can always be changed and improved.
It’s sad to watch this from the side. It’s sad to know that this girl has so much love to offer, if she just would change her way of thinking. But she can’t find her way, and she’s suffering every single day, to such a degree that she sometimes can’t even leave the house because she’s feeling so bad about herself.

Scenario 2: an old man standing in a queue in the supermarket. He has exactly one person in front of him. You cannot imagine the amount of complaining: nothing is good enough, the girl at the till is too slow, the customer service is terrible, and so on. Is it fun to live like that? To never be happy about anything? Just seeing all the negative aspects? Wouldn't it be easier to just go with the flow, enjoy the moment, try to find something good about the situation. "Ok, I'm stuck in this queue... but  won't complain, I have more than enough time. Besides it's much better to stand here and enjoy the air conditioning instead of being outside, melting away in the sun".

“If you will call your troubles experiences, and remember that every experience develops some latent force within you, you will grow vigorous and happy, however adverse your circumstances may seem to be.”

-John Heywood-

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