Tuesday, 16 March 2010

Things you see in the local supermarket

Today I saw a girl who used to go to school with me. Her trolley was full of groceries, she was talking to a man while holding her baby. She was a bit puffy, she looked ten years older than she really is. I looked at her for a while, wondering if she was happy. My first thought was "I hope she's happy". The second thought that crossed my mind was "thank God, that's not me!". I know what it sounds like, but my intention is not to criticise people for their choices, I'm just happy that I always had the courage to follow my own heart. If I would suddenly find myself with a baby and a house, only chaos would follow. Almost all my cousins and also a lot of people from school are leading serious grown-up lives. They have families, mortgages and boring jobs. They didn't go to uni, they didn't travel and I doubt they ever followed any crazy dreams they might have had. The highlight of the year is probably two weeks on a beach in the Canary Islands, Turkey or Thailand. I'm sure they are content, their lives are based on a routine that excludes too many risks, they have their homes and families.
There are no rights and wrongs, everyone has the right to do whatever they feel like. And I don't feel like having a life like that (not until I turn 30 at least). But, somehow it seems that it is better and more correct to be all grown-up and boring than a young adventurer. Could someone please tell me why? How come it's ok to ask someone "when are you finally going to settle down?", whereas a "when are you going to give up everything you have/travel around the world/ pursue your own personal happiness/ save the world?" is considered a criminal offence by some?

4 comments:

Anne said...

I have seen these girls, and I have said out loud "Rather you than me, darling"! Stay a young/old adventurer, do not end up like the girl you saw in the supermarket! A girl such as this would never do anything by herself, she would always need advice and help from others in some form or another, and that shows she is oppressed, baby-ish, and not at all mature enough to be independent- this is a sad excuse for a life. In my opinion being 'grown up' is not about having children, and certainly not about having a bloke - these stupid girls who do these things are reliant on everyone else, who wants to be like that? Not I. Achieve your own goals/career, live for yourself not others, do not go with the flow - rebel against social constructs, travel and experience life, it is too precious to be 'safe', there's a whole world out there do not confine yourself...ever. I could add a multitude of comments to this, but best keep it simple! x

Zsuzsi said...

Thanks, Anne, for the comment. Needless to say, I agree with you completely.

Anonymous said...

heippa. pidän kovasti blogistasi. joskus tuntuu että lueskelen omia ajatelmiani :) keep up the good work!

Zsuzsi said...

Anonymous: kiitos ja kiva, että tykkäät :)